When you are over a certain age and have been single for a while, unsolicited advice about how to meet someone seems to come from everywhere. And the majority of this advice includes the phrase “you should try online dating!” Unwillingly to shell out another $59.95 a month for more eHarmony disappointment, I decided to give free online dating sites a shot. I created profiles for myself on OkCupid and Plenty of Fish to see what they had to offer (spoiler alert: not much). Let’s start with my experience on Plenty of Fish.
The quality of guys on Plenty of Fish seems to range somewhere between kinda creepy and serial killer. Something about interacting with people on this site makes me want to stock up on pepper spray and tasers. Most of the messages I received consisted of one or two words including – “Nice,” “You Sexy,” “SupSexy” and “Hot!” (I’ll note that my profile picture is from a baby shower, so it’s not like I’m wearing anything revealing). These guys think that you should be up for meeting them just because they sent you a selfie they took in their bathroom mirror. It’s gross.
Here’s a taste of what some of the guys who messaged me are like:
Should I be concerned about someone who wants to take me to “the Gun range” on a first date?
What does this guy have against punctuation?
Thank goodness Plenty of Fish has a “block” button. Several men on the site have disgruntled portions of their profiles that say that women who automatically block them or don’t return their messages have egos. Those guys should realize that a lot of women aren’t going to be attracted to a man just because he calls her “sexy” or “Princess.” My profile is filled with my interests and several mentions of the importance of faith and church in my life, so those messages filled with profanity and sexual innuendo aren’t worth my time. A woman shouldn’t be classified as egotistical or snobby because she doesn’t want to put up with crass behavior from sleazy guys on the internet.
POF seems like a great place to pick up a stalker and STDs, but finding someone nice and normal will be much more of a challenge. I’d rather be single forever than try this out again. Has anyone else out there tried Plenty of Fish?