When you are over a certain age and have been single for a while, unsolicited advice about how to meet someone seems to come from everywhere. And the majority of this advice includes the phrase “you should try online dating!” Unwillingly to shell out another $59.95 a month for more eHarmony disappointment, I decided to give free online dating sites a shot. I created profiles for myself on OkCupid and Plenty of Fish to see what they had to offer (spoiler alert: not much). Let’s start with my experience on Plenty of Fish.
The quality of guys on Plenty of Fish seems to range somewhere between kinda creepy and serial killer. Something about interacting with people on this site makes me want to stock up on pepper spray and tasers. Most of the messages I received consisted of one or two words including – “Nice,” “You Sexy,” “SupSexy” and “Hot!” (I’ll note that my profile picture is from a baby shower, so it’s not like I’m wearing anything revealing). These guys think that you should be up for meeting them just because they sent you a selfie they took in their bathroom mirror. It’s gross. [click to continue…]
A few years ago, I used to play the game Rock Band with friends and our fake band was called “Quarter Life Crisis.” The name captured that stage of working at low-paying jobs and figuring out post grad life pretty well. I also rocked the vocals.
Now that I’m 30, it feels like I have grown out of the quarter life crisis phase, but I think I may be in the midst of a third life crisis. It may seem irrational, but 30 is the age when people start to think that there may be something wrong with you when you aren’t married, your Instagram feed becomes dominated by pictures of babies, and panic about being single starts to set in. I’m confident about all aspects of my life the majority of the time, but the moments when I start to worry about the future seem to be more frequent lately.
Am I saving enough for retirement? Should I go out more often to meet people? Am I going to turn into a cat lady (even though I’m allergic to cats)? These are all questions that occasionally stress me out, and keep me from blogging as I focus on work, volunteering and other attempts to be social, and avoiding cats. With all that said, especially in this season of gratitude, I’m extremely thankful for all I have, but also a little confused about how to make the most out of my life. If you have some advice, feel free to enlighten me.
Speaking of advice, thanks to the random people who have emailed me with eHarmony advice (despite of the lack of new posts on this blog). I’ll share that I tried online dating again. It was horrible again. I would write about a series of laughably bad first dates, but I’m pretty sure a couple of those guys know that this blog exists and I don’t want to increase the awkwardness.
I believe that continuing to focus on saving is a big part of overcoming my third life crisis, and my goal is to take more time to write about it.
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