Singleness

Third Life Crisis?

November 27, 2013 in Dating,Singleness

Third Life Crisis

A few years ago, I used to play the game Rock Band with friends and our fake band was called “Quarter Life Crisis.” The name captured that stage of working at low-paying jobs and figuring out post grad life pretty well. I also rocked the vocals.

Now that I’m 30, it feels like I have grown out of the quarter life crisis phase, but I think I may be in the midst of a third life crisis. It may seem irrational, but 30 is the age when people start to think that there may be something wrong with you when you aren’t married, your Instagram feed becomes dominated by pictures of babies, and panic about being single starts to set in. I’m confident about all aspects of my life the majority of the time, but the moments when I start to worry about the future seem to be more frequent lately.

Am I saving enough for retirement? Should I go out more often to meet people? Am I going to turn into a cat lady (even though I’m allergic to cats)? These are all questions that occasionally stress me out, and keep me from blogging as I focus on work, volunteering and other attempts to be social, and avoiding cats. With all that said, especially in this season of gratitude, I’m extremely thankful for all I have, but also a little confused about how to make the most out of my life. If you have some advice, feel free to enlighten me.

Speaking of advice, thanks to the random people who have emailed me with eHarmony advice (despite of the lack of new posts on this blog). I’ll share that I tried online dating again. It was horrible again. I would write about a series of laughably bad first dates, but I’m pretty sure a couple of those guys know that this blog exists and I don’t want to increase the awkwardness.

I believe that continuing to focus on saving is a big part of overcoming my third life crisis, and my goal is to take more time to write about it.

Image Courtesy of Sira Anamwong / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

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Birthday freebie emails are starting to hit my inbox, so it’s officially August! Instead of spending the last month of my twenties engrossed in episodes of Big Brother and drinking Sinless Margaritas by the pool, I’m planning on blogging more with updates about tackling my 30 Before 30 list, some money saving tips and other randomness.

In the meantime, I’ll leave you with this Mint infographic about the high costs of being a single lady. Did you know that a single woman’s expenses total over $1 million more than her married counterpart over the course of a lifetime? Excuse me while I go clip some coupons…

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