eHarmony

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Thank you, Yahoo! Shine for posting an article about the “10 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Singles.” I’ve seen these articles about the things you shouldn’t say to a bride, pregnant woman or mom, so it was refreshing to see an article that acknowledges the dumb things that people say to singles. Whether someone’s been married for 30 years or three months, I feel like they’re prone to “married person amnesia” that makes them forget about what it was truly like to be single.

I’ve noticed that as I get closer to 30, there’s a lot more unsolicited advice and questioning about my marital status (or lack thereof), so it’s good to know that I’m not the only one who hates hearing these things. Here are some of the things that especially irk me:

1. “Why aren’t you married?”
I get this one a lot. Whether it’s from a family member or a stranger, I stumble over what to say. “Guess it’s not my time yet” is what normally comes out, but “none of your freakin’ business” is what I’m really thinking.

2. “Have you tried online dating?”
This one is especially bad when it comes from the over 50 crowd that’s been married since high school. Online dating looks awesome in commercials. But it was a sad, yet hilarious, experience for me that didn’t yield any dates. It’s great that it worked for your co-worker, niece, sister, cousin, etc., but I’m not doing it again anytime soon.

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My 5 Stages of eHarmony

July 19, 2012 in Dating

Has it been an entire month since I’ve blogged?!  I’m back from my travels and slightly sad that Atlanta doesn’t have a beach.  Today also marks two months since I’ve been on eHarmony, so I thought that I’d give you a little glimpse into my eHarmony experience.

Enthusiasm
I was pretty enthusiastic and optimistic (and a little tipsy on wine) when I opened my eHarmony account.  Seemingly normal matches entered my inbox and I was hopeful that a few of them would start communicating with me.  I downloaded the eHarmony app on my phone and hoped for the best.  There were ten or twelve guys appearing in my account each day, so surely I’d be compatible with one of them…right?

Denial
After a few days on eHarmony, it becomes apparent that my matches are…hmmm, how do I put this?  Less than ideal.  I can look beyond the fact that they all seem to be 5’7 and shorter, but I can’t deal with the men who are holding guns in all of their pictures, have several photos that include their ex-wives, or have a mullet in 2012.  There’s nothing wrong with a little business in the front, party in the back, but that’s not a party I want an invitation to.  Surely these incompatible matches must be a fluke.

Anger
No! This is NOT a fluke. After over a month on eHarmony, I decide that it is horrible. I start thinking about all of the things I could’ve bought instead of an eHarmony subscription. That money could buy 56 pops from my summer obsession, the King of Pops, 17 drinks from the pool bar at my hotel in St. Thomas or a really nice pair of heels (that would make me tower over any potential dates I would meet on eHarmony).

Depression
I may have neglected to mention that there are a few normal guys on eHarmony.  The problem is that they’re totally disinterested in me.  This realization made me start doubting myself and wonder if maybe I’m also an eHarmony loser.  Maybe I’m too fat, my hair is too short, my profile is too wordy or I’m socially awkward.  What is wrong with me?!  I felt like drowning my sorrows in a pint of ice cream, but instead I had a friend critique my profile and she (kindly) assured me that I’m not a freak.

Acceptance
I’m sure that eHarmony works for a lot of people, but maybe it’s just not for me.  I’m sticking with it for another month, but I’m willing to bet that you’ll never see me in one of their commercials.  There is one seemingly normal guy who messages me, but he lives 200 miles away and a date is probably impractical in the near future.  I’ll try to remain cautiously optimistic and I’ll let you know how my last month of online dating goes.

In non-eHarmony news, a 75 year old man asked me for my phone number last week (I wish I were kidding).  Why must dating be such a hot mess of an experience for me?

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I Signed Up for eHarmony (and I Might Already Regret It)

May 21, 2012

After  discussions with some friends and input from a few lovely readers and twitter followers, I decided to take a risk and sign up for eHarmony.  With some liquid courage in the form of Chardonnay, I took the assessment, pulled out my credit card and became a 3-month subscriber.  I’m going to trust my usually […]

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The Cost of the Perfect Match

August 3, 2010

Yesterday TIME.com had an article called “$100,000 Matchmaker, Make Me a Match.”  It’s an interesting look at the increasing demand for high-end matchmakers.  There are apparently people out there who pay from $15,000 to $50,000 to have someone find them a potential mate.  I guess the alternative for us normal folks is something closer to […]

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